I have finally come back from the dead!! To all those who didn’t know, I was in the hospital for a very..very long time. I have been through a lot… enough to understand each of your worries, doubts, and your lowest moments. I am here to help anyone with anything. If you need to be heard, I am hear to listen, even if you don’t want advice, just a friend, I am here. I don’t want anyone to go through anything that I had to go through.
1.) I haven’t heard “awks” in forever!
2.) Down to the advice. To me these are clear signs of him giving you hints. If it were me, I’d ask in a flirty/joking way, “are you trying to drop me hints?” So then I can see how he reacts and know what to do from then on. But now that I reread your message you said, “I am not sure if I like him more than friends.” Sweetie, you need to figure out your feelings before anything happens. Do what you want to try and figure out what you feel. Go out together and have fun! Don’t let the overthinking control you into not trying something new. See if you even like him that way then get down to business. Good luck!!(:
First off, y’all are young. Hormones. From 14 to practically 21 you’re in a hormonal mess. You will meet people that are like this for the rest of your life. I’m only 17 and I’m around people like that everyday. Heck, I’m one of them! You learn to adjust and figure out what you can do to be on the good side. Maybe ask him what he thinks about you? He’s probably a prick at times because he has issues elsewhere for all I know. Ask him, learn him, and pursue him if you really like him afterwards. Be wise, and good luck.
p.s. have fun with your life, make stupid decisions so you can learn from them, but make the right choices when it boils down to it or else you will regret it for the rest of your life. (don’t take this advice as me treating you as a kid-kid. take this advice from one troubled teenager to another who can do better)
Hey, he’s the one who said he likes you first right? And he was the one who said he wanted to date you first, right? So why are you afraid to reciprocate the feelings? Tell him the truth and he may change his mind about the long distant relationship thing. Let me tell you something personal.. I’m in a long distant relationship right now and we have been strong for over a year. We’ve met up a couple of times and we still love each other even without the technology between us. And you know what? We will probably be moving in together when he officially comes to my state to go to college with me following shortly behind him. It’s always a possibility that they (long distant relationships) can last and will work out. You just have to put a lot of effort in and be creative. For example, he and I do a dinner movie night every now and then. Sure it’s over webcam, but it’s the thought that makes it count. Tell him what you feel and ask him if he’d even be interested in trying. I hope things go well, good luck!
Hahaha, a simple case of the awkward “who makes the first move” shuffle. You seem to be very confident, have you ever thought of making the first move? Yes, it may not be “traditional” but it could turn out to be positive in the end. He seems to have goo-goo eyes for you. Oh, by the way, I’m 87% sure he is shy and that’s why he got someone else to tell you that you’re “really pretty”. Show interest and start the beginning of a possible friendship/relationship. Good luck! Tell Mr. Goo-goo eyes that his stares drew you in to his interesting/mysterious personality. Or not.. that was probably weird to say.. sorry, haha.(:
I would be able to help you more if I knew how long y’all have been talking.. but you could be over thinking the situation. Most people with anxiety do that, trust me, I’d know. Try to keep things interesting. Bring up new places, hot stuff that is going around in your area. Ask her if she is interested in any other those places or events then maybe that can give you the courage to ask her for a night out. I know this wasn’t the best advice I’ve given but it’s a start in your situation. Good luck on getting the girl!
Age is different in every state, so be cautious. But there is nothing bad in talking to him. If I were you, I wouldn’t know what to do either. But now that I think about it, you can ask him how to do a specific work out, or machine or something and that will easily break the ice. You have made the first move and it is up to him if he wants to continue. If he doesn’t do more, maybe you should try to interact. Maybe say…. say you’re looking for a new hobby or something new in town to do. Ask him what he recommends and that should get the conversation flowing. Hopefully things work out and you’ll have a new budding relationship. Good luck!
I would confront her, but go easy. Don’t be like me and confront him (for you her) with an attitude and with anger. I know that may be hard, but she shouldn’t be stringing you along. I mean, you should ask her how it would feel if she were in your position. Oh, and her reaction to that question should tell you what you should do next. If she flips out being paranoid, and concerned, talk it out with her more. If she seems aggressive and comes back with an “I don’t care” attitude, then you may want to walk away. She gave you another chance, she is already proving to you that she won’t be loyal…Ask yourself this, do you really want to go through that? Do you really want to worry yourself to death by wondering if she is with another guy when she should be faithful to you? I sure wouldn’t want to be in that relationship. I think you should find someone better for you. If she tries to get you back, that is your decision that I cannot give you advice for. Think about if you really want to go into a relationship that is already starting out horribly… Good luck and I hope you find happiness.
This is probably my first sexual advice on Tumblr. Personally, I don’t like it when guys go down, but it’s not because of the pubic hair. To answer your first question, no. Not every guy is like that way, but most are. I mean, put yourself in their shoes. Do you want to go down on a guy and have a face full of pubic hair? I definitely don’t want that haha. To answer your second question you should just ask him if it’s really necessary that you need to shave. Try to make a compromise or something. Good luck, and may pleasure be with you. (haha, don’t take that as me trying to be creepy)
p.s. I shave and I understand the stubble comment. But I have become accustom to how I should shave it. And if you do decide to shave it, it must be consistent and in a cycle, I found that easier to handle it. Hope everything comes out positively.
You should probably confront him. If he still ignores you, then don’t take it personally, he either has chosen someone else or he is just confused on what he should do. Don’t stress him about it, but don’t be too laid back that he thinks you gave up. In my opinion, he may have chosen another girl. If that is true then you should have your eye on another guy. And trust me, there is always another guy you can like yet still stay loyal. Just don’t get depressed/sad over a guy who is confused or went for someone else. Know what you want. If he is what you want, then go for it, but just in case make sure you have a fall back plan so you don’t get too down into the dumps. Good luck and keep your chin up. And I’m sorry that this is probably crappy advice..but again, good luck either way.(:
Sweetie, it’s time to move on. He clearly has. It’s been 7+ months. Don’t get me wrong, but don’t go chasing after someone who doesn’t care anymore. I understand when you say that you still love him. No one ever loses feelings for someone they truly loved at one point in time, but even though those feelings are there, you need to move on. Find someone who will give you the attention you want and deserve. Stop chasing, find someone better. Please don’t think I’m being mean or rude, I’m just trying to tell you the truth and my opinion. If you still want to go after him, I hope you find happiness in the end. If you do take my advice and move on, I wish you luck on finding the guy you deserve.
Do and ask things that he is interested in. If he likes drawing, ask him about it and show him how awful/good you are at it and laugh over it. But honestly, it doesn’t seem like he’s interested… But it doesn’t hurt to try. Just don’t try to hard. That’s where some girls go wrong and things turn sour then they wonder to themselves what they did wrong. Don’t be that girl. Be you, and try to get to know him and have a better connection with him. Good luck!(:
Okay… so, if I’m getting this right, there are two guys. The first one, let’s call him F, is the one you’re very interested in but he makes it confusing. The second one, lets call him S, is F's friend. So you're kind of flirting with both. Before I get into the advice for the two guys, let me say this… Not ever guy is as confident and up front as most women want them to be. So don't always expect a guy to just be straight forward.
Okay, so to the guy parts. F seems to hit all the right targets that you seem to be looking for, yet he is an off and on kind of guy. Guys, just like girls, are unpredictable. Yet F doesn’t seem to give you the time of day most of the time. No you didn’t give me much information on S, so all I can tell you is that you should hang out with him a little more and see if feelings come up. If none do, then S just should be a friend. So I think you should ask F what he really wants with you and hang around S to see if any feelings come up. After that it’s up to you to make the final decision. Good luck!
From what you tell me, he probably isn’t interested in being in a relationship. Either that or he had other things on his mind or he was just bored because there wasn’t much to do, I don’t know. What I think though is that you should probably ask if him he is interested. If he is, then great, try to keep him interested. If he isn’t, then move on. It’s as simple as that. Good luck on finding the answer.(:
Let me tell you something, everyone deserves the chance of a friendship/relationship no matter the issue. Well, there are exceptions that some relationships shouldn’t be. Anyways, only you can answer that question as to how you can show your maturity because I don’t know you personally. Maybe she doesn’t want complete maturity in a person because there has to be fun at some point in time. Though the basics in the thought of being a mature person is to be well rounded/educated, common sense, and knows the right from wrong. Simple right?
Let me share a personal story. I was 16 at the time and I fancied a 19 or so year old and he thought I was very mature with a hint of immaturity due to the fact that I like goofing off and I can’t really keep focus. But it still worked out because he accepted me. If he can accept me, then she should accept you if you have what she likes. By the way, it was legal, so don’t think bad of me.
I wish you luck with her.
P.S. Thank you very much. I am doing a lot better than I was a couple of months ago.