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I have finally come back from the dead!! To all those who didn’t know, I was in the hospital for a very..very long time. I have been through a lot… enough to understand each of your worries, doubts, and your lowest moments. I am here to help anyone with anything. If you need to be heard, I am hear to listen, even if you don’t want advice, just a friend, I am here. I don’t want anyone to go through anything that I had to go through.

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  • 3 months ago
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  • AnonymousThere is this guy that I work with we have been friends for over a year. But recently he has been paying more attention to me and saying that he misses working beside me since he got moved positions, he asked where I was when I booked a day off and stood up for me when someone said something rude to me. Are these clues? Am I overthinking this? Is he just being friendly? (He is outgoing, and friends with a lot) I'am not sure if I like him more then friends, I just don't want things to get awks.
  • 1.) I haven’t heard “awks” in forever!

    2.) Down to the advice. To me these are clear signs of him giving you hints. If it were me, I’d ask in a flirty/joking way, “are you trying to drop me hints?” So then I can see how he reacts and know what to do from then on. But now that I reread your message you said, “I am not sure if I like him more than friends.” Sweetie, you need to figure out your feelings before anything happens. Do what you want to try and figure out what you feel. Go out together and have fun! Don’t let the overthinking control you into not trying something new. See if you even like him that way then get down to business. Good luck!!(:

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousOkay I'm 15 and my brother always has friends over and one of his friends is 16. He has caught my eye but I don't think I can pursue it. It's weird though. Sometimes he's so sweet and wants to watch movies with me at 3 am and then the next he is a total prick. I'm so confused. What should I do, it's awkward because I see him almost everyday.
  • First off, y’all are young. Hormones. From 14 to practically 21 you’re in a hormonal mess. You will meet people that are like this for the rest of your life. I’m only 17 and I’m around people like that everyday. Heck, I’m one of them! You learn to adjust and figure out what you can do to be on the good side. Maybe ask him what he thinks about you? He’s probably a prick at times because he has issues elsewhere for all I know. Ask him, learn him, and pursue him if you really like him afterwards. Be wise, and good luck. 

    p.s. have fun with your life, make stupid decisions so you can learn from them, but make the right choices when it boils down to it or else you will regret it for the rest of your life. (don’t take this advice as me treating you as a kid-kid. take this advice from one troubled teenager to another who can do better)

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousThis guy and I have been talking for 2-3 months now. We live on opposite ends of America. He says he really likes me and would love to date me, but he doesn't do ldr's. I have a huge problem - I think I've fallen in love with him! I want to tell him, but I'm terrified of what he'll say. I want to date him and be his girlfriend. The thought of another girl being with him breaks my heart and brings me to tears thinking about it, but I don't want him to know that. What do I do?
  • Hey, he’s the one who said he likes you first right? And he was the one who said he wanted to date you first, right? So why are you afraid to reciprocate the feelings? Tell him the truth and he may change his mind about the long distant relationship thing. Let me tell you something personal.. I’m in a long distant relationship right now and we have been strong for over a year. We’ve met up a couple of times and we still love each other even without the technology between us. And you know what? We will probably be moving in together when he officially comes to my state to go to college with me following shortly behind him. It’s always a possibility that they (long distant relationships) can last and will work out. You just have to put a lot of effort in and be creative. For example, he and I do a dinner movie night every now and then. Sure it’s over webcam, but it’s the thought that makes it count. Tell him what you feel and ask him if he’d even be interested in trying. I hope things go well, good luck!

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousFew weeks ago this boy got a girl to tell me that I'm "really pretty". His a year above and we've never talked. I thought he had a girlfriend at the time, but apparently they broke up now. He keeps on staring at me, and we'd have these awkward glances where he wouldn't look away and just search my face but then cuz I'm shy id look away. I don't get why he doesn't make a move and it's getting to that what he said was just a compliment or something else? Friends say he likes me, what do u think?
  • Hahaha, a simple case of the awkward “who makes the first move” shuffle. You seem to be very confident, have you ever thought of making the first move? Yes, it may not be “traditional” but it could turn out to be positive in the end. He seems to have goo-goo eyes for you. Oh, by the way, I’m 87% sure he is shy and that’s why he got someone else to tell you that you’re “really pretty”. Show interest and start the beginning of a possible friendship/relationship. Good luck! Tell Mr. Goo-goo eyes that his stares drew you in to his interesting/mysterious personality. Or not.. that was probably weird to say.. sorry, haha.(:

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousHey well there is this girl i like her more than anything but I'm to shy and anxious to tell her in the case I stuff up, I'm to nervous to even ask her out somewhere, the recent messages we have had seem as if where losing touch but I don't know if I'm over thinking that or not, and if I am what should I say to make the conversations better. can you please help me it would mean a lot. Thanks
  • I would be able to help you more if I knew how long y’all have been talking.. but you could be over thinking the situation. Most people with anxiety do that, trust me, I’d know. Try to keep things interesting. Bring up new places, hot stuff that is going around in your area. Ask her if she is interested in any other those places or events then maybe that can give you the courage to ask her for a night out. I know this wasn’t the best advice I’ve given but it’s a start in your situation. Good luck on getting the girl!

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousI'm 17 and go to a gym, this guy that works there-must be in his 20s-I'm worried he might be a bit put off because I'm under 18 but anyway I'm really attracted to him. We don't talk really, he sometimes asks me if I'm ok but they have to do that, but we do have intense eye contact sometimes and sometimes I catch him staring at me and I know he isn't freaked out by me because he wouldn't even bother to ask if I was ok otherwise. I want to talk to him but don't know what to say he doesn't have FB
  • Age is different in every state, so be cautious. But there is nothing bad in talking to him. If I were you, I wouldn’t know what to do either. But now that I think about it, you can ask him how to do a specific work out, or machine or something and that will easily break the ice. You have made the first move and it is up to him if he wants to continue. If he doesn’t do more, maybe you should try to interact. Maybe say…. say you’re looking for a new hobby or something new in town to do. Ask him what he recommends and that should get the conversation flowing. Hopefully things work out and you’ll have a new budding relationship. Good luck!

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousHey sorry I have to ask this on anon is just that I don't want the person to know as they follow me on tumblr. But basically I'm trying to get back with my ex and we talk and everything and she agreed to try work things out in her own pace. However whilst trying to get back together with me she's been flirting and seeing other guys who she kisses and she doesn't know that I know and when I ask indirect questions she lies to me. What shall I do? Do I confront her and tell her I know? Help me pls
  • I would confront her, but go easy. Don’t be like me and confront him (for you her) with an attitude and with anger. I know that may be hard, but she shouldn’t be stringing you along. I mean, you should ask her how it would feel if she were in your position. Oh, and her reaction to that question should tell you what you should do next. If she flips out being paranoid, and concerned, talk it out with her more. If she seems aggressive and comes back with an “I don’t care” attitude, then you may want to walk away. She gave you another chance, she is already proving to you that she won’t be loyal…Ask yourself this, do you really want to go through that? Do you really want to worry yourself to death by wondering if she is with another guy when she should be faithful to you? I sure wouldn’t want to be in that relationship. I think you should find someone better for you. If she tries to get you back, that is your decision that I cannot give you advice for. Think about if you really want to go into a relationship that is already starting out horribly… Good luck and I hope you find happiness.

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousMy boyfriend told me he wants to go down on me, but I'm scared. He told me he thinks pubic hair is gross and I don't shave because I don't like the way it feels to have the stubble, but I don't have the option for laser hair removal or anything. I don't want to just be like "hey, I don't shave my pubic hair, you still down?" Is having pubic hair a problem for most guys? How do I tell him? help!
  • This is probably my first sexual advice on Tumblr. Personally, I don’t like it when guys go down, but it’s not because of the pubic hair. To answer your first question, no. Not every guy is like that way, but most are. I mean, put yourself in their shoes. Do you want to go down on a guy and have a face full of pubic hair? I definitely don’t want that haha. To answer your second question you should just ask him if it’s really necessary that you need to shave. Try to make a compromise or something. Good luck, and may pleasure be with you. (haha, don’t take that as me trying to be creepy)

    p.s. I shave and I understand the stubble comment. But I have become accustom to how I should shave it. And if you do decide to shave it, it must be consistent and in a cycle, I found that easier to handle it. Hope everything comes out positively.

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousI like this boy and we were flirting like 3 months until last friday. :( last thursday he told me he liked someone and i thought it was me because everyone says that we both like. But then friday he was acting really strange... We barelly talked all weekend and now today he totally ignored me. And now im actually thinking that he likes my best friend with who he talks like a month ago. I breaking down. I dont know what to do. I just want to cry.
  • You should probably confront him. If he still ignores you, then don’t take it personally, he either has chosen someone else or he is just confused on what he should do. Don’t stress him about it, but don’t be too laid back that he thinks you gave up. In my opinion, he may have chosen another girl. If that is true then you should have your eye on another guy. And trust me, there is always another guy you can like yet still stay loyal. Just don’t get depressed/sad over a guy who is confused or went for someone else. Know what you want. If he is what you want, then go for it, but just in case make sure you have a fall back plan so you don’t get too down into the dumps. Good luck and keep your chin up. And I’m sorry that this is probably crappy advice..but again, good luck either way.(:

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousMy boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago and I still love him. We broke up because he had no time for me and I understood. The thing is, since we broke up, we're not together anymore, not even when he has time for me, he always says he has family problems so that we don't hang out anymore. But I see him constantly with his girlfriends and I'm jealous cause it seems like he cares about them more than he cares about me. Now we barely speak, he ignores me all the time, so what should I do?
  • Sweetie, it’s time to move on. He clearly has. It’s been 7+ months. Don’t get me wrong, but don’t go chasing after someone who doesn’t care anymore. I understand when you say that you still love him. No one ever loses feelings for someone they truly loved at one point in time, but even though those feelings are there, you need to move on. Find someone who will give you the attention you want and deserve. Stop chasing, find someone better. Please don’t think I’m being mean or rude, I’m just trying to tell you the truth and my opinion. If you still want to go after him, I hope you find happiness in the end. If you do take my advice and move on, I wish you luck on finding the guy you deserve. 

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousHi. I have a crush on this guy but it seems like a lost cause. He goes to a different school and is really popular. And all my friends are routing for this other girl who likes him so I probably won't get any support from them :( he hangs out with one of my friends a lot so if I hang out with her I can see him on the weekends sometimes. How do I get his attention?
  • Do and ask things that he is interested in. If he likes drawing, ask him about it and show him how awful/good you are at it and laugh over it. But honestly, it doesn’t seem like he’s interested… But it doesn’t hurt to try. Just don’t try to hard. That’s where some girls go wrong and things turn sour then they wonder to themselves what they did wrong. Don’t be that girl. Be you, and try to get to know him and have a better connection with him. Good luck!(: 

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousI like this guy hes really Nice Interesting Outgoing Polite & Intelligent and we have so many things in common but hes really confusing cuz Sometimes hes serious and sometimes he show me he like me Hes so proud he would never talk to me I mean if he likes me he would approach me like the other guys do right? I think it's because he's a Junior and Im a freshman beside we come from very different races Im currently talking to his friend hes real outgoing and nice but you know hes no the one I want
  • Okay… so, if I’m getting this right, there are two guys. The first one, let’s call him F, is the one you’re very interested in but he makes it confusing. The second one, lets call him S, is F's friend. So you're kind of flirting with both. Before I get into the advice for the two guys, let me say this… Not ever guy is as confident and up front as most women want them to be. So don't always expect a guy to just be straight forward.

    Okay, so to the guy parts. F seems to hit all the right targets that you seem to be looking for, yet he is an off and on kind of guy. Guys, just like girls, are unpredictable. Yet F doesn’t seem to give you the time of day most of the time. No you didn’t give me much information on S, so all I can tell you is that you should hang out with him a little more and see if feelings come up. If none do, then S just should be a friend. So I think you should ask what he really wants with you and hang around to see if any feelings come up. After that it’s up to you to make the final decision. Good luck!

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  • 3 months ago
  • AnonymousOkay so this guy that I really really like his name is Chris an me an him hung out today but he didn't really talk to me or do anything I feel like he doesn't even like me idk what to do :(
  • From what you tell me, he probably isn’t interested in being in a relationship. Either that or he had other things on his mind or he was just bored because there wasn’t much to do, I don’t know. What I think though is that you should probably ask if him he is interested. If he is, then great, try to keep him interested. If he isn’t, then move on. It’s as simple as that. Good luck on finding the answer.(:

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  • 3 months ago
  • Anonymousim 18 and the girl i dig is 21 (turned 21 a month ago). Is this a big deal? and how do i show her my maturity? P.S. I do hope you/someone else gets better from the hospital business
  • Let me tell you something, everyone deserves the chance of a friendship/relationship no matter the issue. Well, there are exceptions that some relationships shouldn’t be. Anyways, only you can answer that question as to how you can show your maturity because I don’t know you personally. Maybe she doesn’t want complete maturity in a person because there has to be fun at some point in time. Though the basics in the thought of being a mature person is to be well rounded/educated, common sense, and knows the right from wrong. Simple right?

    Let me share a personal story. I was 16 at the time and I fancied a 19 or so year old and he thought I was very mature with a hint of immaturity due to the fact that I like goofing off and I can’t really keep focus. But it still worked out because he accepted me. If he can accept me, then she should accept you if you have what she likes. By the way, it was legal, so don’t think bad of me.

    I wish you luck with her. 

    P.S. Thank you very much. I am doing a lot better than I was a couple of months ago.

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